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IRISH_EYES_99 January 26th, 2014 10:33 PM

Well we will keep Wolf_Angel, * Synful Poet & others in our thoughts & prayers. Maybe things are going good in their lives, maybe one of these days they will drop in here to say Hello. Hope so. In the mean time we can stay connected. ;) Gets some duct tape & scatters it to keep us sticking together. .. ;)

rjsfeminist January 27th, 2014 05:48 PM

I had a way to contact Wolfie, too, but that was a few years back, and I know things have changed since then. Wish there was a way to make sure she's okay...Also, has anyone heard from Pooh's Big Sister? Irish, I'm ripping off some duct tape... ;)

IRISH_EYES_99 January 27th, 2014 07:22 PM

((((((( rjs))))))) I'm in touch with Poohs Big Sister. She is doing well. Very busy. I'll see if I can talk her into trying to get time to be on here. :) She'll be thrilled that she is remembered.

Jennifer23 January 27th, 2014 08:30 PM

You all have been here longer then I have, but I appreciate the loyalty that you maintain with your friends. I wish that they could all be back!

IRISH_EYES_99 January 28th, 2014 01:28 AM

:pray1:Wish they could all be back too. Sometimes rl plays a bigger role, and things need to be taken care of. As I said before you never know when one, two, or three of them may decide to pop back in, and maybe stick around more often. :) :pray1::ponder:

PoohsBigSister January 28th, 2014 04:01 PM

Ok, ok, ok... it's a loooonnnnnnggggg story, but life has been a bit tumultuous this past couple years. I got married (as ya'll know) in July 2011. My hubby's son was 14 at the time, and a special needs kid. (he is adopted, and his bio mom was a crack addict) He was violent, and we begged and begged for help, but couldn't get anyone to help us. We even discussed giving him back to the state - to be told hubby would go to jail if he did that for abandonment. The day after we returned from our honeymoon, we had to call the police for domestic violence, and all they did was shake their head at him and tell him to straighten up. (give me a break!) This continued for another year!! In August of 2012, he was angry because I told my hubby to ignore his outburst rather than feed into it, something our therapist had told us to try. He came after me with a shovel, and hubby got in between him and I. So, when he couldn't get to me, he attacked my car. He did $900 worth of damage to my car. We called the police, and they said...we can't do anything, he is a minor. seriously...i was attacked by him, and yet they let him stay in our house!! We finally got heard because I refused to let this go. I pressed charges - despite the police trying to talk me out of it?!?!?! It went to court, and his adoptive mom (hubby's ex) finally stepped up and took him (she was seeing him 5 hours a month at this point). So, he went to a residential care place for 10 months and then moved into her house. He was doing really well up until last weekend. He attacked mom's boyfriend last weekend. Mom called us and said either you come and get him or i'm calling the police. I know it was the hardest thing hubby has ever done, but he said...call the police, I'm not coming to get him. This was based on a conversation between the two of us where we both agreed he couldn't come back into our home because of violence. Son has two strikes, one more and he goes to jail for a year - no second chances, so if she called the police, chances were, he would go to jail for a year. She didn't call the cops. She didn't expect hubby to say no!!

We went to counseling (we still do family counseling with son, even though he doesn't live in our house.... we feel it is important since he still comes to visit and it helps us all be on the same page with a neutral mediator) on Wed. and he asked if he could come live with us again - we said NO. We made sure he knew he was loved, but that he couldn't come back to live with us because he hadn't really changed his ways. He was still being violent to get his way. NOT HAPPENING.

On top of that, my supervisor (also the owner) at my job in August pushed me up against a wall and screamed at me - in front of a co-worker. I tried to quit, and was not successful. They did promise to change my position so that I wouldn't work with her anymore. Later that day, she came into my office and said "you can't quit, you will never have it as good anywhere else as you have it here". And, I thought to myself, I am a "battered wife" at work!! So, off to counseling I went. On Oct. 21, she was angry before I even got to work, nothing I said or did was right, and by 9am, she was yelling at me again. She got so violent in her yelling that I KNOW in my heart that had I not had a four foot wide desk between us, she would have hit me. I quit that day. I walked out and didn't look back.

I am having a problem finding a job now because I didn't give notice to them, but rather just quit.... even though I wasn't safe. Even though I filed for unemployment and was awarded it based on domestic violence in the workplace.... sigh.

So, I'm sorry I've been out of the loop...but I do cherish knowing ya'll remembered me enough to ask about me. :)

HUGS TO ALL!!!

IRISH_EYES_99 January 28th, 2014 04:37 PM

(((((((((( PBS )))))))))), You can always vent away in here. Feel so bad that all that was going on in your life. Can you feel the love. Cherish that, know that we are here. Sometimes writing things down as you did here, helps the situation. You put it out in the open. The words were said. That can be a good part of the recovery. That woman, the boss is the one that needs help with her temper. Can't help but wonder what life for her family at home is like. ... You are STRONG remain that way. Take this one day, one step at a time. I will keep you all in my prayers. Stay SAFE that's important, Stay in contact. (((((( hugs )))))))

Allie January 28th, 2014 11:18 PM

{{{{{PoohsBigSister}}}}}

crazymomma January 29th, 2014 09:43 PM

((((((((PBS)))))))) Lady I have missed soooo more than words can say!! I have been in your shoes with my room mates son. not pretty. He ended up in placement for 2 years and now is living with us again and it is such a change. It sounds like you 2 and the ex need to show a united front, stick to your guns and show him what he is doing won't fly.

Sorry about your job. I pray you find another one soon.
Oh and one more thing welcome home my dear, dear friend.

Jennifer23 January 30th, 2014 01:05 PM

PBS, it's so nice to have you here!!

IRISH_EYES_99 January 30th, 2014 01:46 PM

Passes out cups of (coffee)c ( tea)c ( hot chocolate )c cream/ milk / sugar/ s&l/ spender/mini marshmallows.. enjoy

crazymomma February 1st, 2014 10:04 PM

Thanks Irish! You always been the best hostess.

DACDjr February 5th, 2014 04:19 PM

Well it is nice to see that some still come in here! ;)
I miss everyone!!! But life is so hectic right now, I hardly find time for me anymore. (sigh)
I sure hope everyone is doing well! I love you gals!

Jennifer23 February 5th, 2014 06:58 PM

We love you too, and stop by when you can.

crazymomma February 6th, 2014 09:41 PM

dac come in when you can everyone here in the same boat.


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