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Elusive Unicorn March 20th, 2013 01:33 PM

Whats has been doing
 
Guess this will be good place to get my story out.

Elusive Unicorn March 20th, 2013 01:51 PM

Where to start is a good question. Right now I feel like my life is upside down and backwards. Guess could start with the telling and what followed.
My now ex-husband tells me that he has something to tell me well I was online chating with a couple fiends. He dropped a bomb on me tells me that he was cheating on me and to make it worse did not even have the decency to wear a condom. I went into shock as this was the second time that it had happened. Sigh have learned the hard way that 1st time u are human 2nd time is a choice.
So I told him we could try and i did try. I just could not get over the fact that he chose to do this again to me and after all I did to just comply with the demands he was giving me. Including giving up the computer on his day off.
The only thing I would not give up were my online friends. I was secluded enough.
Was all down hill after that. I was given no space to heal. I had to try and hide my tears from my kids. I was numb alot of the time inside. Only thing that would get threw that feeling was the anger and profound sadness.
Sorry to say was the onset of depression. Which even now I am dealing with. To someone who does not have it you do not want it trust me.
Well this is the back story and being how I am at the moment I will tell more later when I am not sitting on pins and needles waiting on a call that I should not even have to wait on.I will write more about what has happened in this past year or so as I can. Sometimes your the windshield sometimes the bug I guess.

IRISH_EYES_99 March 20th, 2013 07:53 PM

(((((((((((( Elusive Unicorn )))))))))) I wish I had a magic wand to rewind your life & make it better. So sorry that you are going though this again. Hold your head up high. You've done nothing wrong. He has. Whatever you do, don't feel as if any of this is your fault. IT"S NOT! I realize that doesn't help but hopefully it will put it back into perspective it's on him.

Depression is a natural outlet for what you've been though. May I suggest you make time to talk to a therapist, talking to someone not related to the situation helps.

Don't know how old your kids are, but they are old enough to know something is out of whack. Let them know it's not them. Let them know you are there, even though they see you.. they need to hear it.

Wishing you healing.

Jennifer23 March 20th, 2013 11:09 PM

Uni, I'm wishing better days for you in the future. You're in my prayers. Try to hold your head up!

Elusive Unicorn March 21st, 2013 12:22 AM

{{{ Irish}}} {{{ Jenn}}} Ty hopeful will have better days. sigh but story is unfinished. What I mean is not up to date. I have to take it slow on writing it all out. As it takes a lot out of me. Snort my path is tangled right now but it will get sorted out and I will find my way. At least I am not on the path alone.

crazymomma March 21st, 2013 01:20 AM

(((((((My Sweet Girl))))))) I love you and I know what you are going through and the paper work is scary. They are written that way to scare you but that is all it is a scare tactic. For too man it doesn't work. With you it only did cause you still have a long road.

IRISH_EYES_99 March 21st, 2013 04:36 PM

(((((((((((( elusive unicorn & crazymomma ))))))))))) I'm glad you have each other to turn to. Elusive give it time & hold on to your patience. Things take time. Give it whatever time it needs to sort out in your favor. ((((((((( extra hugs ))))))))))
(((((((( Jen just because ))))))))

Elusive Unicorn March 24th, 2013 02:09 PM

Let's see now ... I was very depressed and not getting better and harassed daily on things. I made a promise not to talk to my mom about things at the time. He was scared that I would take the kids and never look back. Then seeing how bad I was getting he told me to call my mom. I wound up living here. I was still being harassed, I needed time and space that he would not give me. I was also talking to a online friend at the time who was supportive just offering advice. In fact I had two online friends that were doing this. One just happened to be my best online buddy. We talked alot well my world was falling apart. I knew I could never trust my ex again to many times did I turn a blind eye to the things that had been done and said. When my ex asked for a divorce is finally when I acted on the feelings I was have toward my best friend. We made plains to meat with me going out to where he lived at the time. My moms whatever she wants to call him... helped me out a great deal with the kids as far as the legal aspects went. He made things go very easy in court for that. The down side was my ex and him decide that they did not wish to get along anymore. The arguing between these two over the phone and such has not made things easy. I have been threw a lot of changes. I will get to the rest some other time. Sometimes it takes a bit for my mind to wrap around it all and adjust to everything. Will bring more up to date next time I am still not there yet but getting closer. Sorry has taken so long to tell all is just some things in here that I would put down my ex would use against me even if they were just innocent words. I am still trying to get used to the great guy in my life who doesn't use my feelings and words against me.

IRISH_EYES_99 March 25th, 2013 10:14 PM

Hang in there it will sort out. You will be ok. Probably stronger than before. So glad you have someone in your life. Someone who listens & doesn't judge on words. Wish you the very best.

Jennifer23 March 25th, 2013 10:59 PM

Uni, you were one of my first friends here and you still are a friend. Keep your head up.

crazymomma March 26th, 2013 12:10 AM

Ladies He is a good man. I wish the one in my life was half as good to me. I hate the way things are in my life but what do I do? When I was going through so much he was there for me and stood by my side when I was so sick. Now he is sick and the problem is if his job finds out he could lose his job. They can tell him you can't work with these issues. It is causing worry and stress for both of us.

I want to help but I don't know how and with the health issues of my own I can't work and ssi only goes so far.

IRISH_EYES_99 March 28th, 2013 11:53 PM

(((((((((((((((((( crazymomma ))))))))))))))))))))))))) All I can do is wish you the very best. Don't give up, hang in there. It seems the holiday seasons are somewhat rougher on a lot of people. Wishing you the very best. Hold your head up high, do what you need to do to make things work.

Jennifer23 March 29th, 2013 11:28 PM

You'll be in my thoughts and prayers, Momma. You're a good woman. Take care.

crazymomma March 30th, 2013 01:44 AM

Thank you both. We have a house full for the holiday. Uni's 2 are here plus are usual 7. I love having a full house as it's always too busy to think of how things really are.

DACDjr April 2nd, 2013 01:18 AM

We have helped each other through plenty of things. Some really rough things. We have laughed together and cried together, we have lost a few of our closest WOW friends. But we know that they have moved onto the great WOW boards in heaven. Together... together we have gotten through it all.

As for me, I am very thankful for all the sisters I have made over the last 17 years here. WOW the years are flying by....

crazymomma April 2nd, 2013 11:54 PM

((((Dac))) so true. TY been feeling kind of blue and just missing so many.

IRISH_EYES_99 April 3rd, 2013 07:29 PM

(((((((((((( DACDjr, crazy, Uni, Jen, Wolf, Syn, &and anyone I missed )))))))))))))))))))),
DACDjr, I know my grandson was just a baby when I started. Now he's graduating HS. He'll turn 18 in a few weeks. Prom is on the 20th, Graduation is in May. Amzing. Where did the time go?

Wishing each of you the very best. Don't wish your life away, live it. Don't take steps backwards.. it's where you're heading to that counts.

crazymomma April 4th, 2013 02:28 AM

I hear ya Irish. My youngest was 8 when I started and now come September she will be starting college!

Wolf_angel April 6th, 2013 01:46 PM

Hugs to all

DACDjr April 11th, 2013 04:16 PM

Yes... Caleb was in Kindergarten when I started chatting.. He will be 20 in a few months :)

Years have gone by so fast, but we are all still here for each other.. Able to relive the past and dream of the future!

My love to all!

Wolf_angel April 12th, 2013 09:58 PM

Been busy taking care of father in law. Finally got things done for him. So now working with podiatrist and nurse practioner to get my foot done. May have rheumatoid arthritis or Peripheal Vascular Disease. More test while I am in pain. Argued with medical insurance people to get my newest pain med for an hour and a half. out of ten blocks walked 7 couldnt walk anymore due to the pain level so a friend sent her hubby to pick me up and take me home only three blocks away from home I was. Found out that I am now offically not a MOTHER to any of my children. That is their choice. So be it. Making plans to leave this house and disappear. Otherwise doing fine as can be expected. Have a great day!:)

Jennifer23 April 13th, 2013 02:12 PM

Temi, don't disappear. Just get better. And you will always be my adopted Mother!
You're in my prayers.

crazymomma April 15th, 2013 11:32 PM

(((((( Wolfie))))))) you know you are very much loved here.Call me if you want. If you need the number I'm more than willing to give it to you.

IRISH_EYES_99 April 17th, 2013 09:31 AM

((((((((((((( Wolfie )))))))))))))))))))))))), If I could wave a magic wand for you, I definately would.

Wolf_angel April 17th, 2013 12:32 PM

Well it seems that my older two children think I am accepting the situation regarding the youngest son and husband being in my life. Not when they threaten you. So ok go to get help from the cops and nada. So call the DA's office and get a detective and supposedly to get help in a day or so. I hope so. Otherwise I have two appts soon at the speciality hospital in Danville, Pa. I so hope to get good news. Tired of waking up in pain from foot cramps and being in pain. Ugh! Otherwise, job is good. Hugs

IRISH_EYES_99 April 18th, 2013 05:30 PM

((((((((((((( DACDjr)))))))))))))))))) just because I know you too are going though some rough spots at this time. Hang in there. Know that we care.

Jennifer23 April 18th, 2013 10:47 PM

Huggs to all. Every woman here truly cares about the friends that we've met at this site.
Best wishes to all of you!

Wolf_angel April 19th, 2013 12:24 PM

Well nothing found new regarding my feet; only the carotid artery on the left so taking aspirin now; Youngest son thinks I am faking the problem with the foot; Daughter wont let me see the grandkids til Husband and youngest son is gone yet wants help anyway. Well Ladies its time to pull up the boot straps and start walking. Hugs Much Love

Jennifer23 April 20th, 2013 01:21 PM

Walk, Temi! It's one step at a time . . .

IRISH_EYES_99 April 20th, 2013 04:01 PM

I totally concurr with Jennifer, walk one step at a time. Do something nice for yourself today. Even if it's going for a walk & grabbing a cup of tea or coffee. It's your time. It works. When my kids were young, and we could leave the oldest with the others ( 7yrs inbetween the 1st & 2nd ) we started going out for coffee. A 1/2 hr at first then we increased it. Today our children are grown up & we still take that time for fun. It's a nice habit we developed. Hope that helps you.

Jennifer23 June 24th, 2013 07:42 PM

Yes!

Elusive Unicorn August 12th, 2013 05:14 PM

ugh lol rl likes to bite us sometimes. I am grateful for having a good guy in my life, and for my kids. Can't wait til they visit again. Let's just say that I have very good reasons for everything I have done. I am trying to keep my head up, it is not always easy. I am in straight up therapy no meds. It help but it is a long slow road. I just keep reminding myself your only human your supposed to make mistakes. So I have been knocked down the past couple of years but I am not out yet. I will keep trying and keep at it. I will get there it just takes time. :)

Jennifer23 August 14th, 2013 05:17 PM

Hi Uni! It's just the two of us here now!

Elusive Unicorn August 16th, 2013 06:25 PM

Hey Jenn good to see you.

crazymomma August 18th, 2013 02:52 AM

Hey you two aren't the only ones!! Maybe the few of us that do come in if we try a little harder we can breathe some life back into this place. so many people need it here. they need to remember what it was founded on and why it needs to keep on keeping on. What do ya say ladies? Do you think it's worth the cpr or what?

Elusive Unicorn September 25th, 2013 09:53 AM

So tired of getting my teeth kicked in by life atm. No matter how hard i try seems like it is not good enough. Most of the fight has been taken out of me. I am to the point where I guess what I feel has no meaning. I can see so much broken around but my brain has no clue how to fix it or if it is worth fixing. Sorry I am rambling and prob making no sense. Was a bad last few days and I do not see them getting any better. I guess I can try and hope that it does but I am running low in the hope department. {{{{roomies}}}} hope you all having better time then me.

Jennifer23 September 25th, 2013 08:27 PM

I don't know what to say, Uni. You're my friend and always be! Hang in there!

Elusive Unicorn September 26th, 2013 08:02 AM

I know that Jenn you always be my friend. Sigh I know things will get better and work out, but my path is very rocky and making my feet sore atm. Hopefully I can get it all straightened out without stressing myself out to much.

Jennifer23 September 26th, 2013 08:58 PM

Uni, don't stress too much! What works for me when I'm down is just smiling at people and saying hi to them. When they return my smile or say hi back, it means alot to me. I also know that others are going through a bunch of stuff, like you. And yes, we'll always be friends!
Jen

crazymomma September 27th, 2013 11:16 AM

(((((((Uni,Jen)))))))) I love you guys. Sweety stop stressing I understand it all and stress causes wrinkles


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