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Old August 28th, 2006, 03:23 PM   #1
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Need advise - and friends

I need some advice. I was involved in a relationship last year with a co-worker that resulted in a 6 month seperation from my husband. We have since gotten back together, and our marriage is doing better than it ever was. But I'm finding that I miss the camaraderie and friendship that I had with my co-worker. I have not been very close to anyone since getting back with my husband, trying to keep the focus on him and the family. Now I find myself without any close confidants or friends that I can even just shoot the breeze with. Because of this, I've found myself thinking back to that other relationship and wondering if I shouldn't reestablish contact - as "just friends". I know that this would upset my husband. That's one of the reasons I'm writing this - I'm looking for a safer alternative.
Any thoughts?
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Old August 29th, 2006, 09:04 PM   #2
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(((Irishayes59)))
Welcome to Women Online Worldwide!

This is a great place to come find friends. As well as have fun without upsetting the hubby.

Even if you have one friend that does make a difference. Maybe your hubby knows of a couple that ya'll could go visit or invite over for dinner.

Its hard striking up friendships let alone a conversation. Best bet is to start with neutral subjects til you get to know others. I hope this helps you.

Don't be afraid to come into chat...or post again on here. Will be looking forward to them.

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Old August 30th, 2006, 09:43 AM   #3
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Thanks. I figured coming here and to other sites like this was a more construcive path to follow than the previous one. I'm hoping to make some good and lasting connections.
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Old August 30th, 2006, 03:15 PM   #4
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Wink Awesome!

(((((((((Irishayes)))))))

Hey glad to see you posting again!

Yes I hope you will do that plus come into the chats. Its a riot in the chat room LOL The other night we had about 12 people in there. Omgosh! Lots of old roomies with some new ones. It was so cool. Just remember to have fun. I have been here around 1998 or so. Lots of friends some have gone and others are still here! They helped me during many crisis from kids to my Mom passing on in 2001. So if that gives you any kind of clue of what kind of people you are likely to meet here, and make friends with come and join in chat!

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Old August 30th, 2006, 03:24 PM   #5
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I'd love to join a chat. Unfortunatley, I'm mostly online at work and can't download the software to use the chat room. Have to rely on this "old fashioned" way to communicate for now.
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Old August 30th, 2006, 06:04 PM   #6
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Irishayes59,

Good luck. Honestly, think it would make more problems for your marriage if you were to reestablish that relationship with coworker. Even as a friend.



Are you and hubby going for counseling at this time? Maybe he/she could refer you to a group session with couples that have faced the same problems.

Welcome to the WOW boards.


Good luck on your marriage. Kudos to both for trying to work things out.
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Old August 30th, 2006, 08:19 PM   #7
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So many Irish eyes...er...ayes! Yeow.
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Old August 30th, 2006, 08:24 PM   #8
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rofl ((((((((((((((( COD ))))))))))))) How could I not respond. )
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Old August 30th, 2006, 08:32 PM   #9
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LOL...I've been waiting for you to notice. Looks like ayes is like 40 years younger than you though.
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Old September 1st, 2006, 12:00 AM   #10
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((((((((( COD)))))))))))) and you deduced this age thing how???
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Old September 1st, 2006, 09:28 AM   #11
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I subtracted the numbers following your nicks.
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Old September 1st, 2006, 11:44 AM   #12
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I've been told "It's not how old you are, it's how old you feel." If that's true, then some days I'm in REAL trouble! (And the "ayes" part is because I have a problem saying "no" when asked to volunteer!)
Thanks all for your input. I've gotten through this week, so I consider that a victory. I'm stuggling everyday with all these fellings whirling around inside, but at least having a place like this to vent is keeping me from doing things I shouldn't.
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