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Old June 15th, 2011, 01:53 PM   #16
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Sorry to say I am having doubts about the genuineness of these posts by Jackie...Just a gut feeling.
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Old June 16th, 2011, 09:09 AM   #17
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Just a couple of points:
Get proof of the physical abuse ex: take pictures & date them
Have a valued friend document anything they may have seen.
Don't wait for the worst. Find a way out.

It's hard, it's tough to make that first step. For your sake, and that of your children check into a shelter for abused women & children.

Do make sure as Wolf_Angel memtioned that you have important papers, & if you can put a few dollars here & there away it will be to your benefit.


Wishing you the very best. Please don't stay any longer in that volitile situation longer than absolutely necessary. Not healthy for you or your children to stay there. Take that step. It's a giant step to regaining your life, your sanity.
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Old June 16th, 2011, 09:13 AM   #18
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SisterGirl, It doesn't hurt to give advice. Maybe someone else reading it needs it more. Wishing you the very best.
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Old June 16th, 2011, 04:33 PM   #19
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Valid point Irish! Maybe if nothing else it may help others too.
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Old June 17th, 2011, 01:33 AM   #20
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I re-read Lillibug's post on my forum and she did say that she may not be here as often as she'd like to be because "he" is around her much of the time. I feel badly and wanted to explain this...Lillibug, I pray for peace in your life.
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Old June 17th, 2011, 03:14 AM   #21
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As do I. Hope you read some of the pointers that were given here. Pray that they will help you. Safety first & formost.
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Old June 17th, 2011, 07:39 AM   #22
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Yeppers what Irish said!
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Old June 17th, 2011, 10:35 PM   #23
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While none of us are "experts", we have all lived though things in our lives. Sharing some of our experiance may help others. Good luck to each & everyone.
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Old June 20th, 2011, 03:33 PM   #24
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"Sorry to say I am having doubts about the genuineness of these posts by Jackie...Just a gut feeling."

Sistergirl, I must say that I was offended by your post. That is something a person in my position fears hearing...being doubted, not genuine in what I am saying or feeling. This usually happens from people who have not been there or who just don't understand. Curious as to what your 'gut' feeling is. Just because I am not able to visit the boards as often as I would like or respond as quickly as you would like doesn't mean my posts are not valid. Also, putting my name out there is not something I have shared with this board, I used it on your board as I felt it was smaller and more private...a bit safer? Please do not take this response as an attack (as I always read the rules and abide by them).

Let me share more info as to what is happening in my life: A year and a half ago we went to Oregon, packed up a home here we had lived in for over 15years, I took a leave from my job (intuition told me not to quit, as I may be able to escape and come back to it?), and explored options there (Oregon). My husband has a home based job (why 'he is always around'). The home he was looking to buy in Oregon did not pan out (long story--in short the water was tainted--a spring, not a well, and did not pass loan process). It was while I was in Oregon that I first visited this board WOW (March), and since then we have repacked and came back to California. What a nightmare, not only did the Uhaul we were renting get stolen after we arrived (good thing we emptied it the nite before) but the renter that was living in our home had damaged it considerably! The house had been under construction most of the 15 years we had lived in it, and was 'Sale ready' when we left. Needless to say, it has been hectic.
I have been re-establishing my work, my doctors, and found a new counselor. When I saw her last week I finally confided in her my 'Plan B'. I had been sharing my story and felt a trust with her. The visits are only an hour long every other week (that's all I can afford at this time). I have been working on my leaving for some time now, and have been gathering important paperwork, reports, and information that will be beneficial. One good thing that did come out of the trip to Oregon.....things I would like to take with me are PACKED, yay! Whether I get to take them or not...who knows...but it has given me another ray of hope. You see, I am prepared to leave with nothing, whatever it takes (just hard to swallow...real hard). Here is one of my dilemmas....HEALTH insurance. When I leave I will no longer have Health insurance. I will probably have to leave my job, along with family and friends (understand I will have to disappear, go far away, as not to put anyone else in line of danger). My health is not good, I was diagnosed with HCM (heart) 3 years ago and it has only been getting worse. On a plus side, I have notified a Women's shelter to volunteer work (in hopes of exchange for at least counseling) waiting for response. I need to close for now....please understand, I am genuine, a real person with feelings, and appreciate all of your sharing and advice. Thank you from the bottom of my heart....

Lillybug aka Jackie

p.s. There are no young children in my home, my son is grown....will share that story when I get a chance
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Old June 20th, 2011, 03:43 PM   #25
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Thank you again everyone, and I hope these posts help others as they do me
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Old June 21st, 2011, 09:14 AM   #26
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Lillybug hugs Now I dont think that sistergirl was doubting your sincerity of what was going on with you. Its just we have a few who are one time posters on here. They tell us things and we wait endlessly and hope that they are ok. Usually we never find out whatsoever.

Now if you have your old job, is it possible for you to do a search on another place where you will disappear to, that you can get a job that has health insurance? This is an idea. I know if you work for some places i.e. for the military as a civilian they do have health insurance but you can transfer to another place with the same job waiting for you.

Good to know you are taking our advice. Just hoping you are safe and soon will be able to walk away! Hugs
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Old June 23rd, 2011, 04:05 PM   #27
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I re-read Lillibug's post on my forum and she did say that she may not be here as often as she'd like to be because "he" is around her much of the time. I feel badly and wanted to explain this...Lillibug, I pray for peace in your life.

Hi Jackie, I didn't mean to offend you and so this is why i reposted (had you read this last post)? Also have been inquiring at "my place" with no response and so was concerned. Thanks for posting.
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Old June 23rd, 2011, 04:06 PM   #28
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Thank you wolf.
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Old June 24th, 2011, 11:01 AM   #29
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Sure np sistergirl. Btw where is your website you speak of? Send me a pm or leave me a message on my page ok? Hugs
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Old June 26th, 2011, 01:44 AM   #30
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done Wolf.
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