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Join Date: Jun 2011
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![]() I wanted for so long to talk about it and now I just can't put it in words. The reason I got here may seem childlish.And maybe it is. But I just can't stand it anymore. It's about my relationships with men. Every girl around me has already changed, almost 5 boyfriends this year. And I am single for 3 years now.I had one relationship in the 9 th grade but it wasn't something serious. And then I had 2 crushes. I used to be a flirty kind of girl. If I wanted a guy I wasn't afraid to talk with him...even just for fun. But like I said, these were not relationships. And in march I noticed something that I haven't noticed before: In my some-kind of relationships I was the one that took the lead, that created opportunities, that struggled to find more and more subjects to talk about. Not once was a guy doing this with me. And I see all these girls around me, they are just standind there without doing anything, waiting for someone to take them and boom: some guy grabbes them. Why am I not grabbed? I start to wonder if I shouldn't have been a guy instead of a girl because all I seem to do is like what a guy is supposed to do? The irony is....I can't be a lesbian..because I like too much men.
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Join Date: Mar 2011
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HiMostly Erica...I understand that men like a challenge. Oh they may act like they want you to do this or that, but in reality want a challenge. They don't want a door mat. I'm not suggesting you are a door mat, but I would play it cool. Flirt a little, enough to get their attention and then let them take the lead. I wonder if this helps you at all. I think it is worth a try.
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Join Date: Feb 2001
Location: in the state of confusion :)
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Erica, The most important thing you can be is to be yourself. The right person will come along & accept you for who you are. Flirting is fun but be true to you. Whatever don't compromise your feelings. When you start doing that you'll be uncomfortable. Good luck to you. I agree with sistergirl the guy needs to accept you for who you are. Time will tell. Be yourself, don't make yourself into someone you don't want to be.
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Join Date: Mar 2011
Posts: 648
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I am curious what "mostly" Erica means...I hope it doesn't mean that you are not being yourself, 100%, all of the time.
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Jennifer23
Join Date: Dec 2010
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Erica, Irish is right. Just be you! Unless you're 85 years old or something, you'll find your guy. Don't try to be somebody that you're not.
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A survivor of chaos
Join Date: Dec 2001
Location: Where my heart is
Posts: 3,147
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Keep us posted on how things are going Hugs
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#8 |
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Join Date: Jun 2011
Posts: 4
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Sister girl, the reason I took the name "Mostly Erica" is because : 1. Erica is not my true name.In fact is Vera. Erica is just an alter ego, if you can say so... and 2. "Mostly" has to do with the 1 point. I'm not 100% disguised. I do use Erica as a disguise. But here, on this website, I thought I'll take my mask off once in a while, so I should call myself MostlyErica. Hope I've cleared things up.
And if all of you wonder why I haven't showed up lately, well, is because my computer was causing me kinda trouble . I'm happy that other women gave an answer to my dilemma. I really have good news. I feel no longer stucked. I managed to flirt...in many ways.from talking to doing's ![]() ![]() ![]() Last edited by MostlyErica; June 14th, 2011 at 04:31 PM. Reason: correcting mistakes |
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Join Date: Mar 2011
Posts: 648
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Hi...now I understand.
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