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Old September 3rd, 2008, 09:25 PM   #1
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Hi, I found this website tonight, and I hope I can get some relief and answers. I have a tightness in my chest, I feel I'm gonna explode. What triggered it is an incident at my older sons school (he's almost 8). The incident is beeing treated wrong and unfair in my eyes. I was also very shocked and surprised how my husband wants to handle the situation. Which brings me to the real problem. Me and my husband haven't been happy for a long time. We've known each other for 12 years, been married for 6 and have 2 lovely sons, 8 and 6 month. So besides beeing a new mom with a stressful nightjob (casino), I'm also extremely unhappy about where we live. I'm originally from Europe, live in the Bahamas, that's where my husband is from. I don't like this country, never have, never will. My husband is a good man, but the big issue was always money, he is terrible with it, has many bills, and gets more financial obligtations without taking care of the old ones. I have been the "man" in the family from when we first met. Luckily (or not so) have I always had good jobs that pay good money, and so I have taken care of most of the bills. I'm sick of it, wasn't raised like that, it's been an issue for so long, I just had enough. I also don't think I love him anymore, haven't for a long time. All my love is for my two boys. I just wanna move back to Europe, but I know he will not let me go with my two boys. Like I said, he is a good man and loves his kids. But sometimes, I hate him. I don't wanna have sex with him, I'm repulsed by him most of the time because all this underlying issues. I don't know what to do, just had to get this off my chest. There is no physical abuse in the relationship, just verbal sometimes, but that goes both ways. I also don't have many friends here, my mom passed away 10 years ago, I don't speak to my sister. I'm so very unhappy right now, I just wanna leave. Can somebody please help me?!? I would love to hear some kind words, or some sound advice. Thanks ladies, I hope this website will help me with my situation.
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Old September 4th, 2008, 12:46 PM   #2
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Nati,
I have no sound advice other than to tell you that if you are unhappy, it doesn't just affect you, it affects everyone in your life, including your children. I don't know if they have counseling services in the bahamas like we do here, but I would definitely go if they do.

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Old September 4th, 2008, 04:55 PM   #3
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Listen to PBS, she gives good advice.

Hope you get your situation under control soon.
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Old September 4th, 2008, 06:47 PM   #4
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miss you!! i haven't been on much as of late...we are "Improving" Bruce's house... painting, cleaning, organizing, etc. It seems like she didn't do anything while she was there...sigh... But..it's been tons of fun too. lol! no paint fights yet...but I almost got him last night. LOL!
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Old March 19th, 2010, 10:45 AM   #5
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Sorry, Nati, what was the problem with your son at school?
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Old March 19th, 2010, 10:46 AM   #6
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Oh, sorry, I just realised how old this post is. I hope it all worked out ok in the end.
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Old March 19th, 2010, 08:27 PM   #7
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Hi LifesStudent welcome to WOW. That poster never came back. So, we don't know the results of what happened. Can only wish her well.
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Old July 27th, 2010, 02:34 PM   #8
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Hi Nati,
Its been 2 years since you wrote but all I can say is that you dont hate your husband, you hate the issues. You see a better life and since you cant get it that what made you more unhappy. You also felt lonely so that just added to the whole thing.

Life is more about gratitude. Everyone takes time to change and I am sure your husband too with a lot of pushing and explaining.

Hope you are good
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