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Old January 10th, 2012, 08:22 AM   #91
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Hamid this isnt a website to pick up girls or women. Tedette you may want to see a doctor. I know some women lose part of the libidioes after baby is born yet get it checked out. Hugs
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Old January 15th, 2012, 11:37 AM   #92
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I am in a similar situation. I've been married for 7 years and have two precious kids. I met my husband 9 years ago and I got pregnant after we got engaged... so we decided to marry. I really loved him when we got married but then with time after my first son was born we wouldn't have much intimacy I lost interest in sex and so did he... Later on I started working at a job close to my house and didn't really pay atttention to this guy that I have worked with till about two year s ago when I was having troubles in my marriage, he told me he liked me and I liked him too, so we started to flirt n one day he invited me to his place. I never went cause it wasn't the right thing to do. But since then we have always looked for each other,he now lives with his girlfriend but says they don't always get along. My husban told me he wanted to divorce for some stupid reason that I don't understand but till now we r still together n he hasn't moved out n i don't think he will... Anyway I was in school last semester and one day at work this guy told me that he had called me the day before so we can meet, but a few weeks before that he'd told me he still liked me, that he always felt attracted to me since that first time... after that day, I saw him during my break at school and slowly as weeks went by we moved on till we ended up in bed. I feel so bad coz although my husband and I are not doing great in our relationship, I'm still married to him and my kids. its been over two months that we have been seeing each other. He says he really likes me but our situation sucks. He will not leave his gf coz she has a daughter that grew up with him and he loves that lil girl n is afraid that he will not see her anymore if he breaks up with the gf. I just don't think I'd leave my husband, he wants to work things out... I want don't to get hurt by this guy but I guess It's too late now, since I'm far too deep into this. I really like him too but we really can't b together openly. At work he buys me lunch and looks out for me, texts me that he misses me n we sneak out sometimes to kiss n hug... This is so intense, I just love being with him but I should just forget about this for It's not going anywhere. It sucks that I can't tell any of my friends what I feel... I have a reputation to keep. Sucks wanting to be with someone I can't b with! But then I think that It's just physicalattraction, he always tell me he likes my body n my eyes n my curves... Idk if guys are like that just like that or if he really cares for me as a person. I will see with time, its so hard to walk away though... But I have to before i end up broken hearted
It probably won't help much as a response but I understand how you all feel.
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Old January 15th, 2012, 12:06 PM   #93
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Thanks for your deep words! You are very realistic about things n we should really be thinking about our families more than those temporary feelings we have for these other men. I know its easier said than done but if we are unhappy then let's do something about it. Either work things out or move on.
Now I feel worse but thankful for your post, celebratingwomen!
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Old January 17th, 2012, 06:58 PM   #94
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Unhappy

Im still in tormile over this guy, feelings have got stronger. ive tried to leave my husband twice but he wont let me leave what am i to do? Hes telling me that he cant live without me and then i feel bad and stay i cant do it any longer, my heart is broken. Please please help!!!
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Old February 4th, 2012, 12:32 PM   #95
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Unhappy Sale story...but a man's perspective

Ladies..I'm a man but have the same story as mentioned in this thread. I've been married for 13 years. Have a wonderful daugther of 9 years. Wife have been very good to me and is very supportive. I've also not been too bad as a husband either. BUT I'm in love with some else. Can't divorce because daughter and our families want us together. Can't break my daughter's heart. My situation is killing me now. Don't know what to do. Deeply deeply sad and can't even express my sadness because everybody has so mant expectations from me. Can somebody help. Women's perspective???
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Old February 4th, 2012, 12:36 PM   #96
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Can sypathise with you. God bless you with courage and help you get out of your termoil.
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Old February 15th, 2012, 01:43 AM   #97
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Ok me too! Married 17 years and met a man who I am so in love with. My husband is alcoholic ..I support him.. I have fallen for a single guy who loves me and we click like puzzle pieces. Has anyone ever left their husband and taken up with a lover? Did it work? I just don't know what to do! It's such hell
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Old February 15th, 2012, 01:49 AM   #98
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Ok me too! Married 17 years and met a man who I am so in love with. My husband is alcoholic ..I support him.. I have fallen for a single guy who loves me and we click like puzzle pieces. Has anyone ever left their husband and taken up with a lover? Did it work? I just don't know what to do! It's such hell
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Old February 15th, 2012, 01:54 AM   #99
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Wow Skythrill I understand all too well. We are not bad people. We just found our soulmate at this time! Hugs my friend we will survive
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Old February 15th, 2012, 06:20 PM   #100
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I too have been with my husband for 13 years. He is my best friend and I love him very much . I grew up believing that once in love you would never feel for anyone else. This isn't the case however. 2 years ago I was posted into a new job(in the military) and found myself attracted to my line manager. I ignored my growing feelings but realised that he was flirting with me, only very subtly to not arouse others suspicions I suppose. At the time, my husband had started a new job where he was very much occupied with studying and shift work. Because of this I was beginning to feel somewhat invisible to him. I guess this is why the flirting had such an effect on me. There was never any real conversation, just plenty of smiles and he would watch me wherever I went. Needless to say, my self esteem went through the roof.
A few months later this behaviour stopped and it was if I never existed. I can't say what prompted it; perhaps a reality check on his part. Anyway, a year ago we all went on detachment where there was plenty of post work socialising. It gave me a chance to see him for his true self. He behaves in the way that any other hot blooded single would if you get my drift, but he still kept me at a distance. I spent the entire month watching him hook up with other girls, and berating myself for how ridiculous I was being. My feelings just grew stronger though. The night before we left, I couldn't take any more of the guilt that I felt and decided to tell him how I felt. The rejection was very hard to take and to make matters worse I felt like I had cheated on my husband. I had no idea what I was expecting from him. I don't even know why I told him, I had no intention on cheating. I just neede to get it off my chest.
A couple of days after I got home, my husband confronted me. I told him everything and he was devastated. Eventually, after much talking we decided to give it another go. He has been absolutely wonderful since then. I truly cannot fault him for his attentiveness and love. Problem is, I am due to go away with work for another month and I am not over this other man. I don't trust myself anymore after last time. I've tried everything to get him out of my heart but nothing has worked. Thankfully, I am leaving on return from det. Maybe distance will help, in time.
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Old February 15th, 2012, 06:36 PM   #101
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Yes it's really hard. When the spouse is not attentive and the other person is. I don't think we are bad people. But I feel so much guilt. There is a part of me that says "you only live once" My relationship has not become physical. But I think it will. Then I think I will be more confused. When a warm handsome caring man makes you laugh and loves you. And then your spouse is drunk and high when you come home. It's hard to love the drunk. Just sayin
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Old February 21st, 2012, 10:39 AM   #102
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I know this won't solve my problems but i guess it feels good to be able to 'confide' in someone about this.
I've been married for 6 years now and my husband and i have been together for 12 years. We have 2 beautiful children, 5 and 4, and i love them to death.
I come from a rather conservative family where divorce and infidelity is just a big no no.
I've been seeing this other guy for the past 3 years now. He is completely different from my husband. My husband is the type of man who doesn't show affections. In all the 12 years we've been together, i don't remember the last time he told me he loves me. He wouldn't remember my birthday or our anniversary. I know he loves me but he just doesn't show it. Anyway my husband found out about my affair a couple months back. Even thou it hurts him real bad, he still decided to work things out, for the sake of our kids.
The problem is, even thou i'm married to this wonderful guy, who is willing to forgive me for all my flaws, i still can't bring myself to leave the other guy. I feel like such a w***e
They are both really wonderful men. i'm torn. I don't know what to do. Sigh
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Old February 21st, 2012, 10:48 AM   #103
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Hey help2323

First big hugs. Someone who does not have these feelings will never understand. I sure do. You are not a bad person. All I can say is take comfort in the fact that you are not alone. I struggle with this too. See a good counselor and talk it out. I find that helps. Loving two men is very easy for me to understand. Try talking to a counselor and see what happens. Much sympathy and positive energy coming your way!!
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Old February 23rd, 2012, 11:42 AM   #104
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hi i am also married from 4 years and have 1 daughter 2 years i love my Boos in work yes i love him he is so quite lovely hansom i have many problems with my husband . My boos love me too he want me to do everything with him we kissed each other once and we talk a lot in phone he want to spend 1 night with me do what we need to do i adore him but i am afraid from God i am afraid that god punish me through my daughter i love my daughter too and i am scared on it i am from Egypt. in my country it is big thing to cheat your husband but i do not have nothing to do with my heart . my Boos is married too and have to kids he love them and he love his wife but there is something we missed in our life and we found it with each other . i worked with him 4 years ago it is started when he told me everything in his life any problem or anything me too do this he considered me his sister but after that he told me that he love me so that i told him me too bec i feel this thing from the first time i meet him . now when he didn't come work in a day he call me to tell me how much he miss me and how much he love me he told me the next time we will meet alone we will do any thing he miss me alot in this days and me too i can not Resist any more i want him what i shall do i am afraid that he only want from me just sex pls tell me what i shall do?
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Old February 23rd, 2012, 05:25 PM   #105
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Love life I can't advise but I can understand ! I would seek the help of a good counselor to sort your feelings out. This is a hard road to travel my friend. Make sure you want to end your marriage before you have sex with him because that line cant be uncrossed. God bless you.
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