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Old August 5th, 2009, 09:41 PM   #1
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Exclamation Is this a form of abuse? Asking for another

This is her post on another website that I copied and pasted in here. Not sure what to tell her but thought perhaps ya'll could help.

NOTE:***********Read First!!!!!!!!

Just to let you know the terminology in this post is no way, shape or form is about color, race, or anything of the sort.

END NOTE!

Yet I do need to vent about my discovery of a new species of humans who are my biggest pet peeves. I call them Major Egotistical ******! No it doesnt refer to a color or race or sex or people. Just the ones who say they love, and/or care about me yet always leave a negative trace behind. The kind where you just want to rage, get angry, throw something, retaliate in some way, over the nonsense they put out. Most often than not its always done on purpose. Yet tis done and the damage, pain and scars left behind may not heal if they do. This kind of damage that is done is usually a verbal sort. Not necessarily using curse words or threats of bodily harm. Yet it does harm to the psyche, the heart, mentallity, mind set, outlook on life and the spirit. Which of course reduces a person's whole being. It may not show bruises or scars but tis there. Then it reduces the person's ability to trust to talk about whatever is within them that is needed to be verbalized. Not necessarily negative but its productive to get it out so that perhaps a solution may be found. Yet due to the list of said people in that person's life dwindling, what is left? Who is left? Where can this person turn to without having an unexpected turn of events where the one supposedly helping ends up doing the same thing by accident? Where another says things yet by words, and actions tis made to be a lie. Perhaps not outright but a lie all the same. Hence what does a person do? Who do they trust? Who do they turn too? What do they do in the meantime? Especially when that person is doing their best to look on the bright side, to trust the other(s), and rebuild whatever could be there. Yet is always made to feel insignificant, inferior, ignorant and basically stupid for believing, trusting again, and still hoping for the best despite it all. Perhaps there is a lesson to be learned there. Not sure if there is. Yet left in pain all the while, and afraid to vocalize or whatever, what should that person do? Thus far its' more like putting one foot in front of the other, and keeping their mouth, feelings, and etc shut away. With no way to find their inner peace or happiness. Hence that person keeps on going knowing that there isnt an answer.

Thus the end of the vent..For anyone else going thru perhaps the same thing, I wish you the best in finding the answers and help. For if I had them I wouldnt had to post this. My prayers will be with all of you hoping none may have to go down this path.

( I did not change a word or anything in this...Wolf_Angel)
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Old August 7th, 2009, 08:30 AM   #2
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The use of the "N" word is in my opinion a step backwards. Sounds like counseling is imperative to getting the help that that person needs. The anger is festering. We all know that when a cut festers it needs med attention. The same logic applies to that anger. Get help to get out of the situation before it overpowers & manipulates to the point of doing something destructive.
Seriously!!!
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Old August 7th, 2009, 01:58 PM   #3
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I agree with Irish(God I seem to keep doing that!) This person has a lot of anger that could get someone hurt. They need help now! Prays and good wishes to whom ever it is.
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Old August 7th, 2009, 06:54 PM   #4
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Thanks ((((((((( crazymomma)))))))))),

Oh Lordy I do hope this person gets some help. It's needed before someone gets seriously hurt. Will keep my prayers and positive thoughts going in the direction of this person getting much needed help. Anger destroys more than I person when it's carried on the shoulders for a long period of time.
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Old November 20th, 2009, 11:32 AM   #5
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Recently I had to find some answers. Not the kind you'd ever want to find or look for. Yet here is the URL Link I found that answers for the most part of things that I am simply overlooking. I am in the process of making plans to get on my own feet and support myself in the future. When I do whatever I do I know I can. Why? Because of the support of friends, family, and online friends along with knowledge you can find at the tips of your fingertips. During the holidays make time for yourself. Your dirty house wont run away, nor will your children get sick for you to take time out for yourself. If need be do some planning. Tis what I am going to do. Or else my family physician will make me take a break regardless what I think I must do, i.e. hospital stay. Ugh! I am doing as well as can be expected in the situation I am in. Yet despite what the spouse thinks I am not as stupid as he will think I am. Hence, making do. So I just needed to let all of my friends and etc know on here what is going on. Dont give me pity for I wont take it. Just be supportive and understanding when I may have a need of it.

Have a great day!

Here is the URL Link:

http://www.helpguide.org/mental/dome...es_effects.htm
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Old November 20th, 2009, 03:20 PM   #6
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(((((((((((WOLFIE)))))))))))))))))))))

You are a strong and willing woman who is also a wonderful friend.

Be kind to yourself, and know that we are here to lean on if ya need us.
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