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Old July 15th, 2004, 04:52 PM   #1
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Cool stepson's behavior

I have a stepson who is 18 yrs. old and afraid to drive or get a job. Is there anyone out there that has had a child like this?

My own biological children could not wait to drive and make money.

What is going on with him?
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Old October 29th, 2004, 11:22 AM   #2
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he is, i believe, afraid... it means he may actually have to do something bizarre like get a life!! you know move out and live on his own? tells me you have made it quite comfy for him, lmao
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Old November 3rd, 2004, 11:57 PM   #3
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Anxiety ?

Are there any other signs?

If yes, take him to a doc, get meds.
Use meds untill he has gotten a better handle on life.

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Old November 4th, 2004, 08:09 AM   #4
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Everyone is different (obviously). A kid doesn't necessarily have to move out on his own by 18...and maybe this particular 18 year old isn't ready to be out on his own, or even to drive. Hopefully he's working some things out for himself...sorry I didn't see this post until now.
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Old November 4th, 2004, 08:37 AM   #5
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Yeah, and now we are talking to the wall but I would have asked if the kid was hesitant to do other things on his own. Sounds more like fear than laziness.
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Old November 4th, 2004, 07:16 PM   #6
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I agree more fear than laziness! Wonder how far back the fear goes! Could be from verbal abuse or other Hope he gets help. Or that he got help you're right cod. Hey walls are you listening?
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Old November 29th, 2004, 12:25 PM   #7
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ok sorry, i have to stick with my original idea as still being a big possibility. this comes from both my own expereince at that age, and a now nineteen-year-old son. When I finally made him do it, it was fine, and he is now in job corps and learning HOW to be on his own... and he loves it. But if i hadnt pushed,( although i did it while I held his hand in comfort and with a loving hug btw), he would still be here at home watching tv and doing nothing... even HE says that. I am not saying fear is not a part of it... but if he doesnt do what he must... the fear will take over and he wont have a life!!
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Old February 14th, 2009, 11:02 AM   #8
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Have you tried to talk to him and asked him?
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